“For you created me in
my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because
I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full
well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was in the secret place. When I was
woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the
days of my life ordained for me were written in your book before one of the
came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of
them! Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand. When I
awake, I am still with you.” Psalm 139: 13-18
My three kids are so very different from each other. On the
outside they have surprisingly similar features: same complexion, same curly
hair, same eyebrows even, BUT on the inside…Whoa, are they different!
My oldest son is so sweet and incredibly silly at the same
time. He is never in a rush, and I sincerely believe that he thinks life is his
playground. He is super smart and talkative…and he always thinks he is right.
(Dare I say, he’s a little like me in that respect. Ouch!)
My middle son is thoughtful, intense, “before his time”…a
bit precocious. He is athletic, smart, and determined. Never quits…a
figure-it-out kind of guy. But he needs his rest or he can be a beast. Yikes!
My youngest child is “so stinkin’ cute” (as her brothers
would say). She is our little princess that packs a punch…literally. She is
sweet and smart, incredibly cute, but that girl was born with a double-dose of
feistiness. That little girl knows what she wants…and what she doesn’t want!
However, I caught myself sinning recently in the way I was
relating to my oldest son. I was comparing him to his younger brother instead
of allowing him to be who God created him to be. I want to encourage their
gifts and help them grow and work through their differences. At the end of the
day, I want them to KNOW that I love them incredibly, immeasurably even if they
made a myriad of mistakes and bad choices that day. I want to love them into
the men and women God has created them to be.
Yet, I caught myself essentially telling my oldest son that
he needed to be a little more like his younger brother—persistent, not easy to
give up, figure it out instead of immediately asking for help, stop
complaining! All good attributes, but he did NOT need me to constantly remind
of him of what his younger brother was doing right and what he was doing wrong.
I needed to correct my oldest Doodlebug without outwardly
(or inwardly/secretly) hoping he would be a little more like his younger
brother. TRUST ME, his younger brother has his own set of issues. I needed to
teach him lovingly, gently, and consistently.
Consider some of the men and women in the Bible and their
strengths and weaknesses: Moses, Daniel, David, Solomon, Job, Deborah, Ruth,
Mary, Rahab, Paul. They each had some great qualities, but they also had their
hang-ups or weaknesses. Some of their weaknesses are even recorded in Scripture
for us to read about and learn from.
Yet, each one of them had a God-divined purpose—a special
plan set in place by our Heavenly Father to use their gifts, their
personalities, even their quirks and weaknesses for His glory. The same is true
for our children. God made them different on purpose. He has a special plan for
them. Some of the very things we find annoying or frustrating may be the very things
God uses in an incredible way. When we allow them to blossom into who God has
made them to be, when we love them for who they are NOW and not just for who
they will be, we will see our children in a whole new light. We will see them
as Jesus sees them…wonderfully and beautifully made.
Let’s pray
Abba Father, Thank you for blessing us with children.
Children that challenge us and force us to examine ourselves. Children that
show us more of you. Children that force us to press into you for wisdom and
guidance. Thank you for their little personalities (or big ones), their gifts,
and their talents. We even thank you for their weaknesses…because we trust that
you will work it out all out for your glory. Help us to teach them and train
them in righteousness and to constantly show them your love. Help us not
compare our children to each other, but allow them to be who you have made them
to be…beautiful inside and out.
In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.