Monday, July 22, 2013

Who's on First? Who's on Second?

Tired. Let’s face it, as moms we are often tired by the time the clock reaches 3:00 p.m., but we brew a cup of coffee and push through to dinner time, bathtime, and finally bedtime for the kids. After a long day of teaching, disciplining, redirecting, playing, cooking, cleaning, and mediating disagreements between siblings, we are often exhausted.

I wish I could say that this blog post is about to offer you some new, profound information on how to be a phenomenal wife, but…it’s not. I simply want to remind you of some things that you already know, but may need to hear again.

For starters, your ultimate hubby is your Father in heaven. Absolutely nothing can replace time well-spent with him. He is your life-line, your source of strength, your peace in the midst of the toys, laundry, etc. He is the one who teaches you how to love.

Secondly, as easy as it is to get this one twisted (by putting our kids next)…your second ministry is to your husband.  A very close friend of mine once confided in me that she knew her mom loved her and her siblings, but she wasn’t so sure about whether her mom loved her dad…even though they were still married. I know that this uncertainty with regards to her parents caused her great anxiety when she was growing up. She said, “A happy marriage leads to happy kids, but not the other way around.” Our kids need to see us love on our husbands. This brings them an incredible amount of security.

Wives, you are a mom, BUT don’t forget that you are also a wife. Your husband needs to know that you esteem him, that you love him, that you value him, that you have time for him. He desires you. You are still his wife, and as much as he loves his children…they do not complete him the way you do. Take delight in your role as a, your hubby, and your kids will reap the benefits. :)

“Let the wife see that she respects her husband, that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and honors him exceedingly.” Ephesians 5:33 (Amplified Version)

Ladies, that may seem like a tall order, but a love like that does not go unnoticed. A love like that is seen, felt, and totally worth imitating.


Heavenly Father, you are right and true. Thank you for giving us your love, and for giving us your word that instructs us on how to love our husbands. Please help us to follow you in all things. Help us to set a godly example in our marriages…one that our children can follow. May you get all the glory in our lives now and always.   In Jesus’ name, Amen.


 I also want to note that their may be some single moms reading this, and you have a very important job.I was raised by a single mom (primarily).  By God's great grace you are acting as both mom and dad. My prayers are with you as well. YOU are doing a fabulous job, and your service does not go unnoticed. 

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