In-Law Survival Guide PART 2

Then he said to them all: 

“Whoever wants to be my disciple 

must deny themselves 

and take up their cross daily 

and follow me." 

-Luke 9:23

(Continued from yesterday's blog, excerpt from the book Becoming the Woman of His Dreams by Sharon Jaynes)

CREATE A LIST. Look for the good qualities in your in-laws and be sure to acknowledge them. Perhaps it is that they raised an incredible son.

LET IT ROLL. There are scores of jokes about the tension between mothers-in-law and sons-in-law, but studies show that the most difficult relationship is the one between the mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law. Betsey's mother-in-law asked, "How are Bill's allergies?" "He doesn't have allergies," Betsey replied. "I raised him and I know he has allergies!" the mom proclaimed. Just listen and then let comments roll off your back. 

PREPARE FOR HOLIDAYS. Ask your husband how he would like to spend the holidays and consider alternating with traditions from your family. 

PRAY. Ask God to show you if you are seeking your parents' approval above that of your husband.

How are things with your in-laws?

Is there any of the above that resonates with you? Why?

In-Law Survival Guide PART 1

Then he said to them all: 

“Whoever wants to be my disciple 

must deny themselves 

and take up their cross daily 

and follow me." 

-Luke 9:23

I read the excerpt below from "Becoming the Woman of His dreams" by Sharon Jaynes, a book I am currently studying. I thought it would be helpful for those moms who struggle with in-law relationships. Thanksgiving and Christmas are right around the corner and this could be helpful as we remember many little eyes are watching and listening to how we treat difficult family members. They watch and will imitate someday the decisions we make today.

One way to avoid a crisis of any kind is to be prepared. Let's look at some key ways to prepare your heart and home for extended family gatherings. 

HAVE A PLAN. If you decide ahead of time that you are going to visit your parents once a month or once a quarter, then everyone knows what to expect. This will alleviate the "you never come to see us" routine. If your parents know you are going to call once a week, it will alleviate the "you never call" lament.

TAKE A WALK. If you are spending extended time with in-laws and feel tensions beginning to rise, take a walk, run an errand, or simply go outside and water the plants. A bit of fresh air can give a new perspective. 

DESTROY THE LIST. One of the most destructive in-law tendencies is to make a list of offenses and then air them when the family gathering is over. Try not to make a list of grievances and hurtful comments, and avoid having a play-by-play review session of offenses, irritating habits, or disagreeable comments.

To be continued.....Part 2 tomorrow

How is your relationship with your in-laws?

Is there any of the above that resonates with you? Why?